Examples of what our Inner Critic may say are “You’re not good enough, smart enough or thin enough. It’s going to be a bad day! Loser! Quit while you’re ahead. Don’t make a fool of yourself. You want to do what?!”
Identifying the voice of our Inner Critic is essential. Without this awareness, we will not be able to point our life in the direction we wish it to go.
- We need to recognise him and stop him immediately.
- Changing our focus and moving our bodies into a different position (e.g. by going for a little walk and smiling) helps to shift our attention.
- We need to talk back, sing our praises and do things that raise our self esteem.
“Research indicates that to change behaviour, it is more effective to stop telling
yourself negative things than to just tell yourself positive things. It’s not so much
the power of positive thinking as it is the power of non-negative thinking.”
– Mathew McKay (Author of “Self-Esteem”)
- What is our critic saying, which keeps us stuck and feeling incapable of change?
- How does this serve us?
- What does it cost us? ‘I feel miserable and de-motivated. It costs me true success, my self esteem, happiness and inner peace.”